Have you ever lost contact with someone?
It happens to all of us.
Now, how many of you have intentionally let a contact fade?
Are they geographically too far away? Too emotionally needy? Etc…
Does this sound familiar?
The thing that is hardest, is when the person being ghosted doesn’t understand why they are being ghosted.
Is this the responsibility of the person doing the cutting?
In a breakup, you often hear the cliche “It’s not you, it’s me…” bull crap.
I understand that not everybody fits, LEGOs, with everyone else in this world.
That being said, I’ve distanced myself from others. Have I come clean with them?
No.
I’ve felt they were too toxic or draining or the proverbial ‘Debby Downer’ type of person that I didn’t want around.
Now, how does a person work this when you are reviewing another person’s stories?
Whose fault is it then? I know I’ve sent others packing for the hills after reading their stories. Not most, but some.
So whose responsibility is it in this situation?
I don’t want to be false and blow hot air up their ass.
A couple of weeks ago I read a story and the monster of the week attacked the party. These monsters jumped up and gargled/screamed/whatever before attacking the characters. I pointed out this was the fourth time this identical means/tactics were being used by an entirely different species in this alien world.
Sharks, or this world’s version of them, don’t typically jump up into the air before attacking people on a boat. Sharks’ domains are in the water, not sailing through the air.
Spiders, or this world’s equivalent to them, which are ambush hunters, don’t scream before attacking either. Ambush killers don’t give themselves away otherwise they spook their prey.
You get the idea, as I’m not going to go over the others.
Is that reason to not want to deal with the obvious flaws in your works?
Who is your target audience? Is your intended reader a kindergartner that has no real-world knowledge? Okay, then maybe jumping sharks and screaming huge spiders fit. That wasn’t the target audience.
So… what is the point of all this?
Sometimes, when ghosted, whose fault is it? The person who asked for help but didn’t like the flavor they got? Or the person sprinkling the turd condiments into their favorite ice cream?
Maybe… just maybe… sometimes the person asking for the review, needs to LEGO a bit?
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That is all for now…
Tootles all
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